It’s now been 2 months since my termination from my company. I was actually not sure what to expect once the frenzied paperwork subsided. (Please see my post on my 1 Month Anniversary which was a roller coaster of emotions.)
I even took a pleasant vacation with my wife, which was fun and a lot of work planning and organizing. But since my 1 month anniversary, I’ve been settling in and thinking of the future.
Settling Into a Routine
I’ve discovered that, despite having the flexibility to do nearly anything at any time, adopting a certain routine helps my mind and body adjust.
What you do (or don’t do) when free of constraints is a better measure of your character than when you have such constraints. I still wake up around 7:15 AM on weekdays. I still meditate for roughly 30 mins at 8:00 AM. And I still open my laptop at home or at my coworking space to look at my schedule and task list. Then I go out and execute on these tasks and update my schedule. And, I still try to schedule in yoga/stretching, cardio, and weight training.
What I have not done, unlike many others, is fall into the anomie of sleeping in till 12 noon and binge watching Netflix. Nor do I play video games all night.
And Trying to Break Out of A Routine
Not that that anomie is necessarily bad or, at least, not always bad. But it shows my character, my base-line nature. In fact, I do see the value of breaking out of my self-created structure. Especially a structure which, admittedly, resembles a normal work day.
For this purpose, I’ve dedicated certain days to be Terminal Days*, during which I either try to keep my schedule completely open and/or plan a special event. If I keep my schedule completely open, then I look forward to random events and take advantage of them. If I plan a special event, it is something that I’ve always wanted to do but just never got around to yet.
The 80/20 Rule For My Schedule
Not just applicable to office work, the Pareto Principle or 80/20 rule also applies to living an enjoyable life. At work, we spend 80% of our time just checking off boxes, following procedure, etc. It’s only 20% of the time when we are actually doing something meaningful.
Applying the 80/20 rule to my life, 80% of my enjoyment will come from 20% of my activities. And I’m guessing that 20% will be from the unstructured activities, including Terminal Days, where new ideas or thoughts can occur. It probably won’t be from the routine structure of my life. It will be the thoughts that will suddenly synthesize in my mind while meditating. Or while meandering in Manhattan, or while browsing in Barnes and Nobles. It will come from a random conversation with an ex-coworker or a new friend from the FIRE community.
The Vast Sea of Time Before Me
It’s only been 2 months since I’ve settled into (and broken out of) my routine, but I have come to some conclusions:
- More money or being FIRE does not solve personal problems. In fact, it forces you to confront your problems because you don’t have the excuse of not having enough time or money.
- We are all driven by something, looking for something. It takes time and effort to figure out what that really is. Most people don’t even get to try because they are distracted by either their jobs or what society tells them they should be doing.
- Community is important. Given today’s prevailing society’s values, pursuing FIRE is often a lonely path. Actually achieving FIRE (or something close to it) can be even lonelier. You need to share the struggles and the accomplishments to encourage each other.
* This is from a Tim Ferriss podcast episode with Ricardo Semler, who is a successful Brazilian business man and author of books about new ways to manage both people and work. Semler set aside his own Terminal Days to do things that he would have wanted to do if he were diagnosed with a terminal illness and had limited time left.