Avoiding the Regrets of the Dying, Regret #2

Another long night at the office

Palliative nurse Bronnie Ware wrote a viral post back in 2009 where she listed the Top 5 Regrets of the Dying. I’m doing a post series about my thoughts.

This post focuses on the second most common regret, a particularly common one amongst Type A personalities in ultra-competitive industries.

#2 I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.

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Avoiding the Regrets of the Dying, Regret #1 (Thank You Bronnie Ware)

Trying to stay away from an unsmiley-face life

One of the reasons why I’ve pursued FI is because I want to learn from and avoid the regrets of those who have gone before.

In her 2009 blogpost entitled Regrets of the Dying, palliative nurse Bronnie Ware outlined the top 5 regrets that people have as they lay on their deathbed.

I came across references to it in many books. Avoiding these regrets became one of my driving forces in pursuing FI.

This is a series on my thoughts and musings about each one.

#1 I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

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My Termination 3 Month Anniversary – Beyond Money…For Now

That feeling of peace, when you can say to yourself, “Hey, I got this.”

Something pretty unexpected happened during the third month of my unemployment. Amazingly, my anxieties and stress about money, which were always in the background ready to jump to the fore, faded to a quiet murmur. I started to become beyond money.

At least for now.

And when I say beyond money, I mean that money no longer engenders in me the negative emotions as it did in the past. Instead, it allows me to conceive and achieve my goals.

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My Own Why of FI: Gym Epiphany

Wish I were as buff as this guy now! (Image used under license from Freestock.com)

I went to the gym recently, the first time in roughly 12 months. I had taken a break from my expensive, high end gym in New York City in order to reduce a high recurring expense. But then I cancelled it because my job at that time had become really stressful, and I didn’t have time for consistent gym work out sessions. Big mistake.

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What Are You Willing to Suffer For? A Response to Mark Manson

I recently came across an article written by author Mark Manson, who wrote The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, a counterintuitive primer on how to deal with life’s problems.

I liked it, despite the profanity in the title. I thought his writing was refreshingly honest. And his traveling lifestyle was something I could easily identify with.

There were many elements of Greek Stoicism – written for the Millennial generation.
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Book Review: My Lessons From The Book Disrupted by Dan Lyons


Let’s face it. Ageism against older workers has always existed, but it has never become more obvious than now. Especially with the breath taking pace of technological change.

Once you hit 40, job prospects start to diminish. Employers begin to question your ability to learn and adapt. And at age 50, your prospects drop off a cliff. Exceptions are if you’re pursuing the “greeter at Walmart” minimum wage jobs. Or if you’re sufficiently well connected to be a professional board member. Otherwise, it seems there is nothing in-between.

But what happens when a baby boomer does not go quietly into the night and instead struggles to reinvent himself? Continue reading “Book Review: My Lessons From The Book Disrupted by Dan Lyons”

My Termination 2 Month Anniversary – The 80/20 Principle for My Schedule

Feeling like I’m still on the clock…

It’s now been 2 months since my termination from my company. I was actually not sure what to expect once the frenzied paperwork subsided. (Please see my post on my 1 Month Anniversary which was a roller coaster of emotions.)

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The Early Days: Stepping onto the Hamster Wheel

From my earliest memories growing up, I followed the rules. I checked off all the boxes.

And I was miserable.  Little did I realize it, but I had unwittingly followed society’s guidelines that led me to stepping onto the hamster wheel of constant consumption.

Check out this amazing YouTube movie by Steve Cutts which exemplifies the rat race. Yes, I know, I’m mixing metaphors but it’s a really good 5 minute movie!

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Clever and Lazy is the Sweetspot for… Financial Independence Retire Early?

The Person Who is Clever and Lazy Qualifies for the Highest Leadership Posts

– General Kurt von Hammerstein-Equord, 4th Chief of the German Army Command, Weimar Republic

General von Hammerstein-Equord, 1929. Courtesy Wikipedia.org.

I came across the above quote a few years ago during my path to financial independence.

I thought it was extremely obnoxious, overly simplistic, and yet disturbingly true.

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